Fate
Magazine 2000-06-01
By: P.M.H. Atwater, Lh.D.
Children of any age can
have a near-death experience. That includes newborns and infants. What
they describe, once they are able to verbalize, can be quite shocking to
parents who are unfamiliar with the startling reality of near-death
states.
With a research base of
277 child experiencers, I can say that the vast majority (76 percent) of
children’s scenarios are rather simple, featuring only three or fewer
elements-things like loving nothingness, friendly darkness, a special
voice, an out-of-body experience, or a visitation of some kind. The
closer the child is to puberty, the more apt he or she is to have a
longer, more involved episode. Still, kids’ cases run the gamut from
hellish to heavenly, regardless of age. The youngest to have a
terrifying experience was only nine days old. This baby girl was
traumatized by ghoul-like beings who threatened her when she “died”
during surgery. The event haunted her throughout her growing years until
the age of twenty-eight, when she had a second near-death experience
that explained the first one.
We all thrill to
“out-of-the-mouth-of-babes” stories that inspire and uplift us, yet
in our joy we fail to view what happened to the child from the child’s
eyes-nor are we alert for aftereffects.
Children’s Experiences
Don’t let children’s
usually brief scenarios fool you-the key is intensity. In over two
decades of research, I have found that it is the intensity of the
experience, not necessarily the content, that has the greatest impact.
The simplest episodes, if intense enough, engender the full range of
psychological and physiological aftereffects-no matter the
experiencer’s age.
With that in mind,
let’s take a moment to compare child experiencers with adult
experiencers. Remember, the intensity, and the aftereffects are the
same, yet the different way kids deal with the phenomenon can be quite
surprising.
Fifty-seven percent of
child experiencers went on to enjoy long-lasting and happy marriages.
Adult experiencers, on the other hand, had tremendous difficulty forming
or maintaining stable relationships afterward; 78 percent of their
marriages ended in divorce.
Both groups in my study
reported unusual increases or decreases in light sensitivity: about 75
percent with kids; close to the adult range of 80 to 90 percent. 73
percent of the adults went on to experience electrical sensitivity, but
not many children did-only 52 percent. This may reflect adults’ access
to technological equipment, rather than a true deviation. Older
experiencers are four times more likely to become vegetarians than the
younger crowd-even near-death kids snub their veggies.
Parent-sibling
relationships tend to be strained for child experiencers. Additionally,
kids are more likely than adults to suffer socially and to report having
regrets about what happened to them. An astounding number of children
would go back to the “Other Side of Death’s Curtain” after their
experience, even if that meant suicide. Child experiencers, whether
still young or grown, seldom see a counselor, and receive less help if
they do. This is not true with adult experiencers-contrary to how loudly
they may protest. Because the disparity between children and adults in
this area is so enormous, it begs further comment.
One-third of the child
experiencers in my study admitted to having serious problems with
alcohol within five to ten years after their experience. Almost to a
person, they claimed that undeveloped social and communication skills
were the culprits, along with an inability to understand what motivated
the people around them. Their world view, as it turned out, had altered
significantly from their peer group and family members, making it
difficult for them to “fit back in.”
There’s another aspect
to the issue of alienation that, for the child, may be even more
profound. Completely aside from any abuse or peer pressure from family
or friends, and whether or not parents are supportive, the major factors
in a child’s experience appears to be who or what greeted the
youngster on The Other Side of death. What parent, no matter how
wonderful or loving, can compare with the Holy Spirit? What person,
friend or foe, can interest a child who has visited the bright realms
and become buddies with an angel? Connecting with such transcendent
love, and then abruptly losing that connection, can be very confusing,
even devastating. Many kids expressed guilt-ridden laments like:
“I’m really bad. The bright ones left and I can’t find them
anymore. It’s all my fault they’re gone.”
We tend to forget how
personally children take everything, and the extent to which they blame
themselves if things go awry. Nor do we notice how large things loom for
them-their near-death experience can define their entire world. Because
many are unable to make “before and after” comparisons, the fact
that “here” is not the same as “there” is often too foreign a
concept for them to grasp.
Suicide
Children reason
differently. Unaccustomed to considering cause and effect, they tend to
act on impulse; hence the high degree of alcoholism, and an attempted
suicide rate of 21 percent. It seems perfectly logical to a child that
the way to rejoin the light beings met in death is simply to die and go
back.
This is not recognized by
them as self-destructive. Their logic says: “I was in this beautiful
place while I wasn’t breathing. It all went away when my breath came
back. I need to stop my breath so I can return.”
Parent/child bonding is
initially quite strong. These kids want to be with their families. That
bonding brings them back again and again. Common assertions are: “I
came back to help my daddy,” or “I came back so Mommy won’t
cry.” The parent/ child bond doesn’t begin to stretch thin, or
break, until after the child revives. That climate of welcome or threat
they are greeted with directly impinges on everything that comes next.
To understand
children’s cases, we must keep in mind that kids are tuned to
different harmonics than adults. Concepts of life and death leave them
with puzzled faces. “I don’t end or begin anywhere,” a youngster
once told me. “I just reach out and catch the next wave that goes by
and hop a ride. That’s how I got here.”
This child, like other
young experiencers, speaks in the language of “other worlds,” one
that is less verbal and more akin to synesthesia-multiple sensing. This
enables them to perceive “reality” as a series of layered realms,
unhampered by physical boundaries. They easily giggle with angels, play
with ghosts, and pre-experience the future. Parents generally find such
behavior cause for panic. Yet what seems worrisome may have a simple
explanation: near-death states expand and enhance faculties normal to
us, allowing access to more of the electromagnetic spectrum-the typical
range of human perception is a mere one percent.
Growth in Intelligence
As a child’s mind
begins to shift from what happened to them, their intelligence quotient
rises. Here are a few sample percentages from my book, Children of the
New Millennium (Three Rivers Press, 1999), which details my research
with child experiencers:
• Mind works
differently-highly creative and inventive: 84 percent.
• Significant
enhancement of intellect: 68 percent.
• Mind tested at genius
level (overall/ from birth to age 15): 48 percent.
• Mind tested at genius
level (subgroup/those under age 6): 81 percent.
• Drawn to and highly
proficient in math, science, or history: 93 percent.
After a near-death
experience, a child’s learning ability reverses. Instead of continuing
with the typical developmental curve-from concrete details to abstract
concepts-a child returns immersed in broad conceptual reasoning styles,
and has to learn how to go from abstract back to concrete. One
first-grader returned to school after drowning and being resuscitated.
While his peers continued with their reading of “See Spot Run,” he
wanted to know about Greek mythology and why Robinson Crusoe was
written. His teacher was stunned, but he just blinked his eyes and
headed for the library.
The most oft-repeated
phrase from those I interviewed was: “I felt like an adult in a
child’s body.”
Even those who did not
test out with extraordinarily high IQs (which averaged around 150 to
160; several were 184 and above) evidenced uniquely creative and
intuitive minds, numerous faculty enhancements, an unrelenting
curiosity, and exceptional knowledge soon after reviving. Some were
gifted with foreign languages. Adult experiencers also returned more
intelligent than before, and many became intuitive problem solvers. All
of this occurred
without genetic markers
of any kind to account for what happened.
Overall, child
experiencers are natural computer whizzes. Many become physicists and
inventors once grown, or masters of the arts and humanities; some are
professional psychics. Older teenage and adult experiencers are most
often drawn to healing, counseling, and ministerial roles afterward. Not
so the kids-at least not the majority. But mention math or science, and
they’re all aglow. History intrigues them, along with anything to do
with times past, as if it might apply to who they were before in past
lives.
Most (85 percent) of the
kids with the greatest acceleration in mathematical ability also
acquired an intense and passionate love of music. In the brain, math and
music functions are located next to each other. Children’s near-death
states seem to activate both of these regions, as if they were a single
unit.
The child who returns
from a near-death episode is a remodeled, rewired, and refined version
of the original. The changes children undergo are more dramatic than
those of adults-not, I suspect, because their aftereffects are
different, but because they are still in the process of basic brain
development when the episode occurs. They are hit with a life-changing
experience at a time when they are most vulnerable to the power of such
a shift.
How many children are
affected? Thanks to a poll taken in 1997 by U.S. News & World
Report, the estimate for near-death experiencers in the United States
has jumped to 15 million people. That translates to about one-third of
those who brush death, nearly die, or who are pronounced clinically dead
but later revive. However, this estimate only addresses adults.
Melvin Morse, M.D., in
his pioneering book, Closer to the Light (Villard Books, 1990), puts the
figure at around 70 percent for children. Thus, under the same
circumstances, children are twice as likely as adults to experience a
near-death episode.
Modern resuscitation
techniques and new medical technologies are bringing back from the edge
of death more and more people- especially kids-who return ideally suited
for this high-tech world. It’s as if the very citizens we need to
thrive in our new global village are being created right under our
noses.
Millennial Generation
Even more amazing is that
the Millennial Generation is being born this way. Today’s crop of kids
compares almost trait-for-trait with what happens to children after a
near-death experience.
In Generations: The
History of America’s Future, 1584 to 2069 (William Morrow, 1991),
historians William Strauss and Neil Howe identify the Millennial
Generation as the group of children born between 1982 and about 2003.
These young people comprise the fourteenth generation since the United
States became a nation. They are the most wanted, nurtured, and educated
group of individuals we’ve ever produced, and the most protected by
law. Unusually smart and assertive, they are as creative and intuitive
as they are technologically adept. They score higher on IQ tests than
any other generation on record-a twenty-four- to twenty-six-point hike;
a significant percentage of them test between 150 to 160 or higher. But
they receive their greatest scores in non-verbal intelligence. They are
creative problem solvers and intuitive innovators. This jump is so high
that changes in the gene pool cannot possibly account for it. Neither
can education, as test scores in the area of rote schooling rose only
slightly-a puzzle for educators.
Something of note is
happening to the human family-these anomalies are global-and it is
happening now!
Increasing numbers of
children are born “advanced.” Increasing numbers of children are
becoming “advanced.” Increasing numbers of adults, through
near-death states or because of an intensely impactual transformation of
consciousness, are also becoming “advanced.”
Brain Shifts
Because this is true, I
no longer consider near-death states a separate phenomenon, but part of
the larger category of consciousness transformations. I call such
episodes “brain shifts” because they appear to cause a structural,
chemical, and functional change in the experiencer’s brain, not to
mention alterations in his or her nervous and digestive systems,
attitudes, and sense of self.
Brain shifts can result
from any manner of otherworldly occurrences. Some are turbulent:
religious conversions, near-death episodes, kundalini breakthroughs,
shamanistic rituals, sudden spiritual transformations, certain types of
head trauma, and being struck by lightning. Some brain shifts are
tranquil: the slow, steady application of spiritual disciplines,
mindfulness techniques, meditation, vision quests, or the results of a
prayerful state of mind in which the individual simply desires to become
a better person.
Major characteristics
displayed by people who have undergone or who are going through a brain
shift include physiological changes in thought-processing (a switch from
sequential or selective thinking to clustered thinking and an acceptance
of ambiguity), insatiable curiosity, heightened intelligence, more
creativity and invention, unusual sensitivity to light and sound,
substantially more or less energy (even energy surges, oftimes more
sexual), reversal of the body clock, lower blood pressure, accelerated
metabolic and substance absorption rates (decreased tolerance of
pharmaceuticals and chemically-treated products), electrical
sensitivity, synesthesia (multiple sensing), increased allergies or
sensitivities, a new preference for vegetables and grains (and less
meat, for adults), and even changes towards a more youthful
appearance-before and after photographs can differ significantly.
Psychological changes
include losing the fear of death, greater spirituality (and less
“religiosity”), greater abilities in abstract and philosophical
thinking, bouts of depression, disregard for time, greater generosity
and charity, expansive concepts of love (while at the same time they are
challenged to initiate and maintain satisfying relationships),
exaggerated inner child issues, lower competitive attitudes, greater
conviction of a life purpose, rejection of previous limitations and
norms, increased psychic ability and future memory episodes (pre-living
the future), charisma, childlike sense of joy and wonder if adult,
greater maturity if a child, detachment and dissociation, and a hunger
for knowledge and learning.
The Greater Plan
In reconsidering
near-death states, I now regard adult episodes as a growth event, an
opportunity for the experiencer to make course corrections in his or her
life; a second chance. I see childhood episodes as evolutionary
events-part of a quantum leap in the development and growth of humankind
as a species; a second birth. The larger category-transformations of
consciousness-I have come to recognize as the engine that drives
evolution, that which advances us.
Beyond all the stories
and revelations experiencers share (and some are quite spectacular), is
“a larger presence and a greater plan.” My three near-death
experiences, occurring in the first three months of 1977, opened the
door to this vision. The thousands of people I have interviewed and
studied since then reflect the same awakening: We are co-creators with
our Creator, advancing with Creation itself.
Most repeated from
near-death experiencers are these four words: “Always there is
life.” If they are right, and I believe they are, then how can there
be an afterlife? A before-life? A death?
Kids describe life as
“the stream we flow along,” while negotiating the currents and
eddies of its spread. It is the “homey home” of our visions and the
ever-present reality of each moment. Life is all there is. Children are
really quite wise, and we would be wise to listen to them.